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by Ashe on January 6, 2012

vintage std posters

She May Look Clean–BUT: The Seductive Villains of Early STD Prevention Posters.  16 amazing (and very, very wrong) posters showcasing women as the harbingers of STDs.  Whether from good girls or whores, you can’t beat the Axis if you get VD!  It’s always amazing to see little vignettes of history such as this, whether we agree (or quite obviously don’t) with their ideas.

Is the ‘Sheer-No-Bra’ look the new street style fodder? (NSFW) at Fashionista.  I love the multiple mixed feelings I get from seeing this image– from ideas of appropriateness, whether we should care, or why it should or shouldn’t be transitioned to another time of day.  I love the one commenter who said they were more bothered by the shoe & sock combination.  Me too.

10 Horror Film Houses You Can Actually Visit.  The boyfriend hates horror movies, but I’m adding these all to our “Must Visit” list!

How to Have a Social Life & Still Save Money at Yes and Yes. This is something ALWAYS on my mind, because socializing always seems to be involved around activities that cost money– going for drinks, going out for brunch or dinner or coffee, going shopping with your girlfriends.  So I love all of Sarah Von’s suggestions for things to do with no/little money involved.  (Also, check out her AMAZING 2012 A Year in Yes calendar– it’s on my wishlist!)

The New Wave of Style Starlets has a lot of gorgeous, well-dressed fairly unknown (to the average person) women on it.

The Blogging Circle of Debt: A Serious Subject  How can you ignore a flow chart?  This is why I’m trying very hard to practice what I preach– buy what you can afford with real, hard cash, and be sure to use any credit cards you have wisely.  A lesson I’m still learning the hard way!

How I Got Rid of Half My Clothes and Found My Sanity.  The hysterical and quietly profound Winona from Daddy Likey gets a bit real with us on her attachment to her closet, emptying it out, and what that process meant for her.

What Dilbert can Teach Us about Happiness: I’m not a huge Dilbert fan, but I love these responses from Dilbert creator Scott Adams.

Any great posts you’ve loved lately? Leave me a link in the comments!

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GIRL, YOU BETTA WERK: A Motto for 2012

by Ashe on January 4, 2012

More than I love New Year’s resolutions, goals, and to-do lists, I love a good New Year’s motto.  One sweet, short sentence to summing up my attitude for the upcoming year.  This year it’s gonna be, “GIRL, YOU BETTA WERK.”  Also known as, “Stop Being Lazy.

While my friends may say I’m not lazy, I know where it hurts me.  The rut of wearing a black t-shirt, jeans, and flats to work each day.  The lingering debt that isn’t quite paid off, and where our savings account is starving for a full belly.  Where I’m starting to lose weight (17 pounds since August!), but I can so easily stalemate.  My inability to produce and create little bits of artistic life, every format they may be.  The mental exhaustion I have each night & how it trickles down in to everything I love.

2012 is crackling with change. I feel it sizzling and burrowing in to my bones (and I’m not alone! Little whispers from friends say they feel the change coming, too).  The little voice in the back of my head says that all that is coming will not be good or bad, but it’s simply change. Change to shake me to the core, make me hold my head up high, and find out what I am made of.

Prior to the holidays, I took some time away from my blog to build holiday presents (to be seen soon!), and I realized how happy I am when I’m producing and creating things.  How excited and frustrated I get to learn something new.  How important that process is to me on a regular basis. So this year, I’m going to do what it takes to WERK and stop being so lazy.

Where To Stop Being Lazy:

  • Financial Fitness.  This is my year! The year to clear the last of the pesky debts plaguing us.  To save and save.  To stop setting myself back and cut the cord on my relationship with credit cards.  So much of my future dreams comes from squashing my old financial dependencies and habits and building new ones!
  • Mental & Physical Health. Last night! My first night on a new relationship with NOLAFit, a 24/7 & awesome fitness center.  I see months of more eating healthy, and perfecting the balancing act between delicious homemade food and sweet New Orleans treats. To take care of myself annually, with regular doctor’s visits and dentist’s visits.  To pay attention and acknowledge my mental health needs, to learn to say “no,” and to provide myself as stimulating a life as possible.
  • Fashionably Fit as a Fiddle!  Oy, some fashion blogger I may be? This is why I love style & lifestyle blogger more, but to be honest, I’m in a rut. I think about how I once dressed and how much pleasure I got out of my clothing, and how it’s just become a drag.   Part of it is body-based (why buy new clothes if I’ll shed more pounds) and part of it is effort.  It’s hard to go the mile when you’re surrounded by people who make negative comments for putting effort into your outfits.  But what with a flash of hot pink lipstick hurt or an edge little height on my heel?
  • Mentally check my work.  Working in the arts is amazing, but not when your own artistic outlet is in another area.  It’s draining to devote so much time and energy to promoting others art that you have little time left to create your own! I’m going to strive to do my best in the passions that drive me. To devote less time in sites like Twitter and Facebook (whose succubi lures suck the time away from me!).

And so much more! 2012′s cracklin’ energy and swirling change makes me want to push more to be the best, happiest version of myself that I can be.  It makes me want to pull myself out of the dark corner clutch I hide in, and to live a life surrounded by happiness, beauty, love, and great energy.

What’s your motto for 2012? Any great adventures planned for yourself?

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The past few weeks have been a constant whirlwind of 12-15 hour days at the airport and several hours on the road.  It was wonderful to spend the holidays with family, though, so the constant traveling was well worth it.

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50 Radical New Year’s Resolutions

by Ashe on December 30, 2011

This little post is a blast from the past from last year (with a few new updates!).  With so many good ideas, it’s always awesome to have inspiration for the year ahead.

…That you can do all year

I’m a huge fan of New Year’s resolutions.  In fact, I love making goals for myself and lists of things I want & need to do.  Too often people create these vast, limitless goals for themselves… and end up failing.

Why set yourself up for failure year after year?  No wonder so many people hate making New Year’s resolutions! No one wants to feel like a failure… least of all to themselves.

So here’s some starters on a to-do list… many of them are on my own list… Instead of intangible resolutions, here are 50 goals and resolutions for the New Year… some are thoughtful, some are playful, some are total trash! But what fun is life without a bit of trashiness, eh?

  1. Adopt a furry feline or canine friend for companionship on your year of adventures. Promise to feed them only the best food you can, and shower them with love daily.
  2. Donate 1%, 5%, or 10% of your income each month to your favorite charity.  I’m a big fan of supporting animal and arts related organizations, myself.
  3. Start working out today! TODAY. Start before the New Year– that first week in to New Year will help you build momentum for the upcoming year.
  4. Check your spending habits at the door– start a shopping ban, lower your spending limit each month, or write a wish list of items you desperately covet to keep impulse buying at bay.
  5. Curb your internet time.  Are you as sickly addicted as I am? Make sure you’re utilizing the best of your time–no more aimless refreshing of Twitter 20 times a minute, no more keeping Gmail open all day long.
  6. Challenge yourself to read more– self help books? Memoirs of fabulous ladies? Craft inspiration? Read a book a month. Read 5 a month.  Push yourself beyond what you’re already doing (or, if you’re like me… FINISH the books you start!).  Or pick up a new section of the newspaper and read it front to back.
  7. To help you with the above–get a library card! Use it often. Scour their shelves for unusual and old movies, utilize their inter-library loan programs.  (This also helps kick those bad shopping habits!)
  8. Pamper those beloved clothing items– take your favorite worn out boots and pumps to the best cobbler for repair. Take that amazing, super discounted designer piece to the super-talented tailor so it fits you perfectly.
  9. Plan a trip with your bestie to New Orleans, Disney World, Las Vegas, or San Francisco–anywhere to get away to a fabulous city for some relaxation & girl time.
  10. Kiss every man (or woman!), while you still can, like a Lady.  (-The Sounds, Like a Lady)
  11. Set aside one night a month to go out and dance until you drop.
  12. Enroll in those lessons you’ve been wanting to take– Tango lessons? Photography classes? Pottery? House-buying or small business management? Why wait?
  13. Put on one accessory before you leave the house.
  14. Walk in to a salon and leave with the hair you’ve always wanted but been to scared/worried/professional to get.
  15. Buy yourself bedding that makes you excited to go to sleep.  Get a memory foam mattress or topper to make it heavenly comfortable.  Get an indulgent comforter. Pile your bed high with pillows.
  16. Spent 30 minutes a day doing nothing. Alternately, meditate.  I’m too anxious to meditate, but some days I just lie on the couch with a song stuck in my head for too long.
  17. Don’t be afraid to ask you partner, your roommate, your parents, your children for what you need– alone time, help around the house, 7 hugs a day (true fact).  It’ll make everyone happier in the long run!
  18. Click unsubscribe– to everything you really just don’t give a shit about.  It’s so freeing.  You’ll be amazed at what blogs you forget about and what sale alerts you really don’t miss.
  19. Don’t be afraid to hit “Ignore” on those Facebook & Foursquare friend requests! You’re entitled to space, even on the internet, where you aren’t accessible to EVERYONE.  Again– it makes you feel so much more free if you know your friends are truly your friends and you can write whatever you want around them.
  20. Drive 2 hours North, South, East, or West– and get lost. Discover your own state, your neighboring cities and what may (or may not) be nearby.
  21. Write up love letters about all of those famous men & women who inspire you–what traits they have, what admirable things they’ve done– and keep those in a notebook tucked away with you.
  22. Start riding a bike to work regularly– tone up and reduce your carbon emissions.
  23. Buy yourself a treasure trove of lady toys throughout the year… after all, doctors in Glamour magazine say you should orgasm at least once a week for maximum health benefits! What better excuse than a doctor said so (even if it’s in Glamour)?
  24. Find 5 new fruits & veggies to love this year. Eat them regularly.  Some of my favorites are sweet potatoes, turnips, and asparagus!  Yum– I can’t get enough!
  25. Write a list of shopping wants to help curb your impulse purchases and inspire you to buy those pieces you’re crazy in love with.  Mine include a dresser, a Michael Kors watch, and feather earrings!

  26. Invest in a crazy beautiful piece you’ll love and use forever–whether a purse, a watch, a great pair of black boots, or the perfect blazer.
  27. Donate your time– to empowering young girls with an organization like Girls, Inc., to helping women get back on their feet at a shelter, or toward socializing and loving abused animals.
  28. Make time for your body: make sure not to skip your yearly gyno check-up.  Have a physical.  Get your eyes tested if it’s been 2 years or more.  Stop by the dentist (maybe he’ll hook you up with a free toothbrush!).  Splurge on regular massages.  Your body is one of the one thing you’ll have FOREVER. Treat it well not matter what your age.
  29. Reacquaint yourself with the theater, visual arts, music.  See some Shakespeare (I’m a fan!).  Indulge in a musical.  Many times you can volunteer and see the show for free.  Attend a museum, or become a docent.
  30. Spend some time with your family.  It’s amazing to me how we get older and, if you live in another city than your family, it becomes so easy to…not interact with them.  Call your grandparents. Make plans to visit for the holidays (and do it!).  I’m not tight with my family, so it’s all the more important to me to do it.
  31. I read that when you do something for the first time with your partner, chemicals are released to trigger happiness.  So do something new with them.  Often.  It can be a new restaurant, a new sexual position, going to the zoo.  Make sure to remind them, “New adventures together!”   It gets you both excited and increases the fun of it.
  32. Pick up a membership/season tickets– for 2 (or for the family). To the local art museum, the zoo, the aquarium, for a sporting event….and go often.  Make it your escape.
  33. Finally quit comparing yourself to others. Stop holding yourself to their standards, expectations, and successes (chances are? They aren’t telling you about their failures).
  34. Pay the toll for 2 cars behind you.  Buy a stranger a drink, or tell them they’ve got a sexy smile. Do something great for a stranger.
  35. Clean out your closets. Sort through your books.  Instead of tossing or donating them, swap them.  Join up with a clothing swap group; join SwapADVD, SwapACD, or Paperbackswap.  Get new goodies out of it. Save yourself some money, and save the landfills a little space.
  36. Take charge of your financial well-being.  Set up a savings account through a group like ING Direct and contribute a little each month.  Max out your 401K if you aren’t.  Open a Roth IRA or 401K if you don’t have either set up. Subscribe to some personal finance blogs. Hell, just setting up a budget and USING it if you don’t have one can make all the difference.
  37. Send your mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, or any close woman relative flowers. Just because.  Buy yourself a bouquet, too.  (People think they’re overrated, but flowers have amazing powers attached to them.)
  38. Go coupon crazy. Try to go without paying full retail. Shop for bargains, coupons, and discounts wherever you can. Revel in what you say, even at the drugstore or grocery store. (I’m a big fan of not paying retail–it allows me to buy more things!)
  39. Find a mentor–whether in writing, blogging, styling, or in a subject like art history, finance, business management.  Pay it forward by becoming a mentor to someone else–whether it’s a child through Big Brothers/Big Sisters or a similar program or a fellow blogger.
  40. Host a couch surfer. Or, like Ginger Corsair, offer your spare bedroom up through a site like AirBNB.com.
  41. Eat at home more.  Take your lunch to work.  Try out new recipes.  Fill your body full of whole, homemade, good, & delicious foods.
  42. Forgive someone.  Let it go of how they’ve hurt you, and give yourself permission to be at peace with them & your past.
  43. Give yourself permission– to do what you want, when you want, and to be who you are, unapologetically. To be a Wild Woman.  To be powerful, strong, quiet, modest, comfortable with who you are.
  44. Learn to sew– learn to reattach a fallen off button. To adjust your hemline.  Even minor repairs like this well keep your wardrobe in top shape.  For inspiration and help, I love the Wendy Mullin Sew U books–they’re great for beginners!
  45. Buy faux eyelashes. Learn to put fake eyelashes on. Wear them everyday and everywhere for a week. Or longer!
  46. Submerse yourself in a new genre or field–film, literature, music.  Learn about the forerunners in it, read the criticisms and theory (or wikipedia pages if you’re short on time).  Indulge in all the original gangstas.  Test out horror, romance, reggae, country, Medieval poetry, Feminist theory or queer studies, new wave/nouvelle vague (music or film? you decide!), Russian propaganda.  Love it or hate it at the end– at least you’re now a amateur expert!  Bonus points if you push yourself in to learning about something that makes you uncomfortable.
  47. Read the major creeds and books of the world’s religions.  Do some reading on smaller religious sects.  Immerse yourself in philosophies too.
  48. Invest in yourself–and your future. Get the degree you’re after.  Get certified. Buy the training course or e-books that will help you thrive professionally (and make you love your job more).  Take the plunge.
  49. Say “I love you” everyday. To your partner. To your cat or dog and kids. Hug them, kiss them, and coddle them.
  50. Wake up every day and say, “I’m fucking rad. This day will be great. I love myself, and I love my life.” Mean it. Believe it.

What are your plans for the New Year, sweet thing? Are you swearing off resolutions all together? Are you attacking 2012 with fervor and might?

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Cotton Shaping Underwire Bra = Love

by Ashe on December 15, 2011

Over the past 6 months, I’ve had the pleasure of checking out the newest offerings from Playtex bras– the Side Smoothing Underwire bra & Seamless Shaping Underwire bra along with the Perfectly Smooth Underwire bra. Each bra has been better than the one before, and I think they’ve left the best for last: the Cotton Shaping Underwire bra.

For the first time in my life, I’ve found a bra to wear that’s easy.  I put it on.  It’s super light, and I don’t feel it.  I don’t catch myself adjusting my bra throughout the day. I don’t feel the straps riding down or the back riding up.  I don’t feel the gals sliding around in the cups or out of the cups.  It’s an easy every day bra.  And I love it for that.

playtex color shaping underwire, playtex cottonista bra, leopard playtex bra

playtex color shaping underwire, playtex cottonista, playtex leopard bra

playtex color shaping underwire, playtex cottonista, playtex leopard bra

While this bra doesn’t have the complete flexibility of a convertible bra, it has the option of being worn regular or racerback style–making it perfect for all of those holiday dress options out there (and transitioning well in to summer & tank top season).  This bra does solve a HUGE pet peeve of mine, which is my bra straps peeking out under pretty & festive dresses!  When converted to the racerback style (creating an X with the straps over your back) it pulls them towards the center of your body— and preventing slippage.

ASOS Curve: Lace & Mesh Dress / Spot Lace Skater Dress / Chiffon Midi Dress

Above are some STUNNNINNGGGG party frocks I’ve got a bad case of the covets for (only a doc can cure me! Or my credit card).  Check out all of that chiffon and lace!  All sleeveless!  Which normally means this gal would be hemming and hawing, pulling at her bra to keep the straps from playin’ peek-a-boo at the office party. BUT NO MORE!

The sad truth is, I probably need to wash my bra as I’ve worn it every day since I’ve gotten it. (Gross, girl.)

In accordance with FTC policy, I was compensated for my participation in the Playtex Brand Ambassador program, but all views & opinions are 100% signed with that Ashe seal of love!

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