At Already Pretty: I’m not Pregnant. I’m Fat.

by Ashley on February 4, 2013

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I’ve got a new post over at Already Pretty today, on a topic that’s very personal to me– I’m not Pregnant. I’m Fat.  Read a few of my mortifying moments, share your own, and remember a reader’s wise quote: unless she tells you she is pregnant or physically has a baby coming out of her, assume she isn’t pregnant.

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Rapunzel February 4, 2013 at 7:17 pm

Greetings from the wintery tundra of Indiana. (Bloomington, specifically. Currently covered in snow.)
I found your guest post on Already Pretty and followed you here. The Trashy Diva dress caught my eye, my New Orleans daughter works there and chose this style for her brides maids. It looks great on ou!
Love your blog, love your style.

Since returning to college as a grandma and gaining the “freshman twenty” I’ve become quite adept at saying “I’m not pregnant, I’m just fat.” It stung the first time, but eventually became funny, I’ve got gray hair for pete’s sake!

Thanks for brightening a snowy day here!

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Ashe February 4, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Rapunzel– small world– I lived in Bloomington for four years, and I’m pretty sure I know your daughter! (We met in Bloomington and she started working at Trashy Diva, where several of my friends work as well.)

Thank you for swinging by, sharing the encouraging words and your story. It’s staggering to think that no matter what a woman’s age or size, that people will just assume we’re all bearing babes! The comments have been amazing, to say the least, and yours included! It’s definitely helped make this girl feel not so alone :)

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Nina February 5, 2013 at 11:46 am

Love your article. I am always and never surprised at how insensitive people can be. You’re awesome, never let anyone tell you different.

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Ashe February 5, 2013 at 12:35 pm

Nina, thank you so much! Your words mean a lot to me, and I appreciate it. :)

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meligrosa February 13, 2013 at 5:41 am

Great piece at already pretty.
I must admit, that when I was a teenager I was pretty slapped in the face or at least that is exactly how I felt. This woman ran her own (and my back then favorite) vintage shop. I was honestly naive and I mean, I kinda looked up to her, she was probably in her 30s, owned her own vintage shop and played records and had the coolest things.
It was awesome.
Until one day I was all happy-go-lucky browsing around and loved the dress she was wearing which was very mod-like, and the waistband was right underneath her boobs. I mean she looked amazing, and being a distracted teenager I did ask her.
I was told to never return.

I agree with Nina, I am always amazed (now, as a full grown adult) on how insensitive people can be. Perhaps a linear lesson more leaning towards encouragement, I read about Jonathan Adler being told he was terrible at what he did and then he had what he calls the Jackie Rice moment. http://www.etsy.com/blog/en/2013/jonathan-adler-etsy/
Not sure if it makes sense, but it does to me, as it can be applied to many experiences/lessons in life.

To be honest, these are the things I really wish my mother would be opened to discuss about or be like, ‘hey honey-heads up’. Something. To this date she can’t even say condom around me. But nonetheless, one can never and should never stop learning :)

ps. Yes, you are awesome.

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viviensaura February 18, 2013 at 1:05 am

I don’t think being beautiful literally means you should have a curvy body. Real beauty comes from the inside, the core of your being, it radiates when everything you feed in your mind is beautiful.

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Whitney February 27, 2013 at 10:45 am

Oooph, dude, what is WRONG with people?! I can’t believe that elderly woman said those things to you. Well, actually, I can sort of believe it. I think people want to chalk body type/weight up strictly to lifestyle choices, because it provides them with a degree of certainty that all they have to do is avoid X, Y, Z (or do X, Y, Z) and they won’t end up being overweight. It doesn’t work like that. Obviously, proper diet and exercise are good things, but someone’s outside appearance is definitely not an indication of whatever choices they’re making. Not to mention the fact that for many people, simply avoiding certain foods and exercising regularly won’t make them “thin.” But you know I think you always look amazing no matter what, so screw those idiots who say mean things :P

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