Links to Love: Facebook, Fashion Blogging, & Feminism

by Ashley on April 20, 2012

kirsten dunst melancholia, melancholia,

Kirsten Dunst from Melancholia

Is Facebook Making Us Lonely? brings up a lot of issues I feel in my own life regarding social media.  Does it maybe make me a hypocrite to stay online and on social media, when I feel lonely? Perhaps. But it’s interesting to see the science and real life experiences looking at loneliness and how the modern computer age distances us even more from each other.

Ashley Judd Slaps Media in the Face for Speculation Over Her Puffy Face:

That women are joining in the ongoing disassembling of my appearance is salient. Patriarchy is not men. Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it.

On Making It Work (and When to Give Up):

If a garment doesn’t work, it doesn’t deserve real estate in your closet.  Stop trying to make it work with belts and tights and control garments and half-baked DIY projects. All that effort does is make the same not-quite-right garment not-quite-right, but now decked out with opaque tights, a skinny belt, and a weird band of fabric that sort of ruins the flow of the piece.

Have you read this Interview with Jenny Zhang?  My LAWD does the girl hit a lot of nails on their heads. From heteronormativity in popular blogs,  cultural appropriation, Trayvon Martin, and talking about race and its impact on fashion, and it leaves your head reeling with things to think about.  (Thank you to Miss Dorothy for making me read this!)

Shapewear and other Underpinnings at Wardrobe Oxygen.  Allie answers your Q&As about shapewear (including maternity shapewear), and I found it super-fascinating (esp. as a non-shapewear wearer).  In the summer, I also swear by bike shorts– and I’ll have a post sharing where to get some of my favorites soon!

{ 7 comments }

Franca April 20, 2012 at 9:17 am

I loved that interview with jenny Zhang too. I’m struggling with the heteronormativity thing a lot. if you know me, I have quite a masculine personality and really don’t follow any traditional roles (when we have kids, everything is heading to us becoming a female breadwinner male homemaker family), but I’m very aware that doesn’t really come across. And i am so so aware how much more traditional the US is and people probably make all sorts of assumptions about me based on what I write. Husband Dave is pretty much the only friend I talk about by name on the blog, and I am married and I do love long term monogamy and we do do those edited photoshoots Jenny talks about, not all the time, but often enough. But on the other hand I write a fashion blog, and a lot of the gender role stuff is really hard to write about without getting very personal very quickly. I really HATE the thought of some young blogger starting out thinking that to be successful they need to be skinny and smiley and have a photographer boyfriend, but I’m not really sure what I can do!

Ashe May 2, 2012 at 10:21 am

Franca, I love how open you are in this comment! I feel like I’ve learned much more about you through it. It’s hard to set an example without getting too personal (and worrying how that can be used against you); it’s like the only way we can do it is through example, but what’s the best way to do that? It’s such a big iceberg, I’m not even sure what the tip of it is and how to have that conversation…

Louise LeMans April 20, 2012 at 10:27 am

Good collection of links, Ashe. That post of not making it work hit home. Can I have a mini-rant here? My issue lately has been that NOTHING seems to fit my body right. Like, fundamentally. It doesn’t matter if it’s a $20 pair of pants or a $200 pair of pants. I feel ridiculous…but I was complaining to my husband in bed last night because I’ve been on an epic search for dress pants for my upcoming season of traveling to see clients this Spring. I can’t seem to find a pair of pants that aren’t skin tight on my thighs to the point the outline of the pockets are visible and celulite is highlighted in the back. If they don’t cling to my thighs then they are way too big in the waist. I know choices are worse for women who are plus size, my best friend is and I shop with her often, but damn. I didn’t think my body was weird but I am starting to think it is, because virtually everything in my closet has something wrong with it, making it a pain in the ass to wear. Anyway, that’s my rant. At this point I don’t have even one pair of non-jeans in my closet that I can confidently wear. It sucks.

Ashe May 2, 2012 at 10:22 am

Tailoring, honey! When you have to make something work, for work, I’d find something that works like 75% of the way and find someone to tailor it to work the rest of the way. I have trying to find pants so much, and I know they’re a chore for everyone, regardless of size!

debi c April 20, 2012 at 12:25 pm

i really loved how ashley judd summed it all up so beautifully.when i first read it i was silently clapping.

For Those About To Shop April 20, 2012 at 5:30 pm

I’m curious about that movie with Kirsten Dunst; I was just reading about it today.

Ashe April 23, 2012 at 7:12 pm

It’s on Netflix right now! I can’t wait to watch it, even though I hear such mixed things about it.

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