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by Ashley on April 6, 2012

Charlize Theory for Vanity Fair, Charlize Theron Dial M for Murder, Charlize Theron HitchcockCharlize Theoron for Vanity Fair

An Open Letter to Spanx: The few times I’ve tried on Spanx, I’ve always tried on a size up so they’d be more comfortable. Then I felt like I could achieve the same effect with high waist panties and a fun pair of tights. So I don’t own them. You?

Mad Crushin’ on Francesca Lia Block: The OG (Original Godmother) of Manic Pixie Dream Girls… for Manic Pixie Dream Girls (and NOT lovelorn young men). Marie has pretty much scored my dream interview!

 5 Ways Modern Men are Trained to Hate Women: While I think this is, to some degree, hyperbole, there’s some truth behind the exaggeration, yes? No?

Surprised to See Me: The Biggest Shock of Losing Weight is the (Sometimes Shocking) Reaction by my Old Friends: The fact that everyone notices I lost weight reminds me that everyone noticed I had gained weight in the first place but they said nothing because, seriously now, what is there to say? They said, “Your hair looks great.” They said, “I like those shoes.”

Ulyana Sergeenko S/S 2012 Lookbook. Simply stunning.

Leather Peter Pan Collar DIY.  So many options.  If you’re a fan of fashion & DIYS, then you really need to be reading Love, Maegan.

Patterns, in general, kind of freak me out. I’m okay in stripes. I love polka dots. But everything else? I shy away from.  So I loved Sal’s post on How to Style Printed Shoes — so much so I was thisclose to buying some of the Desigual shoes on Ideeli!

Samantha Brick on the Downsides to Looking Pretty: “Women Hate Me for Being Beautiful.”  This piece has caused a bit of an uproar (and even a male reaction).  It’s interesting because on one hand, I have a feeling it’s more her confidence, and to a degree, arrogance about her looks that people are responding to, more than her looks.  But there are some valid undercurrents in the piece, about how women respond to each other, especially cattily, when they feel threatened.  It’s one of those articles that ends up a bit of a shame, because it could bring up so much great discussion if she hadn’t turned herself in to a mockery.

{ 13 comments }

Sally April 6, 2012 at 8:32 am

Thanks for the shout-out, my dear!

Courtney April 6, 2012 at 10:30 am

Really? Women hate me because I’m beautiful? Is that a joke? Seriously, just what the heck! Unless you’re Angelina Jolie, then you shouldn’t say things like that. And, come to think of it, no one should say things like that.

Ashe April 6, 2012 at 10:50 am

In her case– I think her girlfriends don’t hate her because she’s beautiful, but hate her confidence over her perceived beauty leads to extreme arrogance (hell, even her husband’s posture indicates a man whose masculinity is based on “having a hot woman.”). That? That women will hate.

Catherine April 6, 2012 at 12:23 pm

It’s interesting because I think women are definitely taught to hate other women (for looks, success, confidence, etcetera), but I think the problem is that she framed her entire piece around herself. She probably could have taken a cue from the article you posted towards the top of this list (5 Ways men are taught to hate women) and done something similar about woman-on-woman hate, without making herself seem so victimized. As you said, it’s a shame she handled the topic so tactlessly and arrogantly – she could have really said something!

debi c April 9, 2012 at 10:09 am

honestly without going into the whole whether she’s that good looking or if it’s her arrogance that pisses people off when i started reading the article i actually felt bad for her that these are the only kind of women she has ever come across in her life.i know girls can get that way but all women out there are not like that..believe it or not there are plenty of women who are secure enough not to feel threatened by such circumstances…
while i am writing this a thought cam to me – we often choose to surround ourselves by a certain kind of people..you can’t choose your boss but friends are chosen..does she surround herself with such people to feel this way?
i have had amazing female friends in my life.i don’t get such people and why would you cal someone a friend if they are constantly hating you or are threatened by you.

Ashe April 9, 2012 at 10:17 am

“we often choose to surround ourselves by a certain kind of people..you can’t choose your boss but friends are chosen..does she surround herself with such people to feel this way?”

That is SUCH a good point, Debi! It’s entirely possible she wants to surround herself by people who are either a) very insecure themselves, or b) very strong and confident themselves, who dislike being surrounded by overwhelming arrogance.

For Those About To Shop April 6, 2012 at 11:11 am

I enjoy your links posts immensely. The one by the guy on ways men are taught to hate women was such a joy to read because it told the truth. The truth does not hurt; pretending it’s not true is what hurts. I love him for sharing these truths with us. And Dial M for Murder is one of my favourite films so that image is awesome.

Ashe April 13, 2012 at 3:20 pm

Thank you so much! That means so much to hear.

Also, would you believe I haven’t seen Dial M for Murder? I’ve seen a few of Hitchcock’s pieces, but never that one! But the whole series of those images is wonderful.

Cassie April 7, 2012 at 1:07 am

On those Spanx? Shoot, I’d rather just wear something forgiving out to supper and really be able to enjoy myself. Are we women or are we mannequins?

I am not seeing the staggering beauty that is Ms. Brick. Maybe she’s just not the standard to which I aspire? She looks perfectly ordinary to me. I wonder, would she take that as a compliment or a put-down?

Ashe April 13, 2012 at 3:21 pm

I think Ms. Brick is pretty, but nothing extraordinary. But she does appear really confident in her images. I’d be curious to know how she’d react to that, too–whether it’s a compliment or a put-down! Maybe she’d feel it was refreshing, or that you were jealous? (OY!)

Cassie April 13, 2012 at 7:04 pm

I think “confident” is really the driving force behind her appeal. Not that she isn’t lovely! Confidence is what pushes maybe over into YES, and that she has in spades. I may even be a touch jealous, if only of the attention. No shame in that admission. We all have our petty moments. I do feel for her, though, because she does come across as naturally confident and, coupled with good looks, yes, that translates to “hate me, I’m gorgeous!” for a lot of people. But what’s she supposed to do? Turn into a shrinking violet? Disturbing notion…

Katy April 9, 2012 at 8:52 pm

I own spanx, but they don’t come out very often. I will say, however, that I thought that maternity spanx were the worst thing I had ever heard of. I tried some one because of a particularly form-fitting dress I had to wear and guess what? They are one of the best support garments for pregnant bellies that I’ve tried. Wore them the following weekend in a not-form-fitting dress because I knew I’d be on my feet a lot and they were fantastic. So now I’m weirdly singly the praises of maternity spanx to anyone who will listen.

Ashe April 13, 2012 at 3:22 pm

You know– it seems like they would be the worst idea, but I can totally see how they would work better for pregnant women. Like you have this little bubble of flesh suspending mid-air, and maybe having something firmly planting it to your back helps support it?

I don’t think I’m making ANY sense, but I can see how it would work.

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