Links to Love

by Ashley on July 22, 2011

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Emma Stone for Elle Magazine, July 2011. Mega-loving all those crazy polka dots!

How Not to Obsess About Looking Good in a Swimsuit: an oldie but goodie.  Somehow, for all the self-confidence issues I can have, wearing swimsuit in a public place is rarely one of them.

When Lying Broken in a Pile on Your Floor is a Good Idea: By riding on this spinning, predatory, fearsome creature, Akhilanda refuses to reject her fear, nor does she let it control her. She rides on it. She gets on this animal that lives inside the river, inside the flow. She takes her fear down to the river and uses its power to navigate the waves, and spins in the never not broken water.

30 Lessons My Parents Didn’t Teach MeReward yourself when you do something good. If you achieve something great or do something you’re proud of, what message are you sending yourself if you don’t celebrate it?

Do You Keep a Universal Grocery List? The goal of the grocery list is to start noticing the enormous number of things going right in one’s life. Had a good meal? Want another one? Write it on the list. Had a good workout? Write it on the list. Get an awesome Facebook comment from your crush? Write it on the list.

A Plague of Strong Female Characters: Maybe what people mean when they say “strong female characters” is female characters who are “strong,” i.e., interesting or complex or well written — “strong” in the sense that they figure predominantly in the story, rather than recede decoratively into the background. But I get the feeling that what most people mean or hear when they say or hear “strong female character” is female characters who are tough, cold, terse, taciturn and prone to scowling and not saying goodbye when they hang up the phone.

What I Talk About When I talk About Dieting: One is that I’ve witnessed a lot of wonderful people who’ve thought that if they just lost 10 pounds, their life would be happy.Their problems would be solved. They would be worthy and deserving of love. They would be, finally, “good enough” for everyone else.

Books vs. Cigarettes: The average paperback runs to less than $10, if not just over $10 apiece. Cigarettes? Oh… $7 every other day or somewhere between $21 and $28 per week depending on my mood. I certainly don’t buy two books per week. I would be lying if I said I buy on average one book per week, if not one book every other week.

Any favorite reads this week? Share them below! (I want to read them!)

{ 6 comments }

Poochie July 22, 2011 at 9:33 am

I just finished Hannibal (the sequel to The Silence of the Lambs). I love the Lecter-Starling relationship and it ended very well for me. It was much more interesting than the movie.

I also read We Need to Talk About Kevin. A challenging book but so good.

I’m trying to read Catcher in the Rye but it’s not grabbing me yet. Neither is Price & Predjudice. But I may soldier on for them.

Ashe July 22, 2011 at 12:11 pm

Ooh, I LOVE Catcher in the Rye! But I also read it in high school, and kind of re-read it every year through college…

I’m always up for good book recommendations–I may have to check out Hannibal (and Silence of the Lambs, which I think I own now that I think about it).

For Those About To Shop July 22, 2011 at 12:56 pm

I love link posts! So much juicy goodness from so many sources and a wonderful way to discover new blogs. I love the No Meat Athlete! I am also a vegetarian runner and I love his article: so many amazing tips on how to live! And the one about the broken goddess spoke to me loud and clear. I was broken on the floor about a year ago and it prompted me to make massive changes, like a year-long vow of celibacy and a shift in the way I wrote my blog. Fear and suffering are gifts because they are opportunities to grow. I understand what the author is saying about strong female characters and what it usually means. To me it means a character that represents a woman in all her three dimensions: not perfect, just real. That is entirely rare and I’m convinced Frances McDormand is the only American actress who achieves it consistently in all her roles. These choices are wonderful; thank you!

Ashe July 25, 2011 at 5:51 pm

Yes! I think Link Roundup are my favorite way to find new blogs– I always love seeing other people’s.

“Fear and suffering are gifts because they are opportunities to grow.” Yes! We just need to be strong enough to recognize what they are and break the cycle. Which is so scary to do, but in some ways, feels so good to do. (For what it’s worth, I’m probably on my way to one of those moments.)

sui solitaire July 24, 2011 at 2:11 pm

Thanks so much for sharing the link love :) I love these links! The Universal Grocery List is an awesome one for gratitude, though focusing on just a few things to be grateful for (& ask on the grocery list) at a time works better for me, personally… though I love appreciating EVERYTHING & ANYTHING! And that post about brokenness? So beautiful.

Also, strong female characters. I concur. It’s kind of like what Miss Mary Max wrote about how in gender nonconformity, we’re much more liable to encourage boys to do more traditionally “girly” things but to steer girls away from them. I’ve noticed even I’ve expressed that double standard in the past… & I’m definitely more conscious of that now.

Ashe July 25, 2011 at 5:55 pm

I’m trying my own experimenting with the Grocery List now, and I love your idea of focusing on a few things and asking for a few things… I feel like I’ve gotten to such a negative point in my life that it’s hard to find the positive things in my life. Maybe once I’ve filled the pages each day with abundance, then I can push forward to focusing on those that I can ask for…

I’d love to see Miss Mary Max’s post if you have a link!

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