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If I Were Another Person

by Ashley on October 11, 2010

I was really inspired by Sarah/Return to Sender’s recent post, If I Were Another Person.  Sarah wrote

I’ve been feeling the need to, oh, I don’t know, be someone completely different. To live a different life. To have different challenges. Just to start over from scratch. So, of course, I thought of how I would dress if I was a different person. I’ve always admired other styles – and wanted to try them – but I always find things that just scream “OMG THAT IS SO ME!” and never really venture out of that box. So, I decided, today, that I am going to try some things that aren’t necessarily “me.” I am going to try styles I admire on other blogs or other people – it’s time for a change.

I immediately fell in love with this idea. In the past few years, as I’ve made my way through the awkward transitions of being a mid-20-something and  losing a body I was happy with and proud of, I feel like I’ve lost my sense of self. I’ve lost my sense of pride and the ways I would express it– through my hair, my style, and the way I carry myself.

Maybe it’s time to shake things up? Break myself out of a style and life rut?

If I were another person, what would I wear?

asos curve, plus size leopard print, plus size romper, plus size jump suit, (ASOS Curve: Leopard Fitted Waist Dress; Leopard 2-in-1 Dress; Block Print Playsuit)

  • Bold Prints & Patterns: I tend to play it safe with patterns, sticking to stripes and polka dots typically.  While I’ve branched out with a few new patterns recently, I find that I’m still horribly particular about them.  They’re typically found in my accessories, shoes and scarves, more than anything.  Birdiee and I were recently talking about how animal print in clothing scares us…. perhaps it’s time to tackle that fear?
  • Layers: I tend not to layer. I’m not one of those artful bloggers who can re-purpose and re-style their clothes to the point of unrecognizability by layering.  Layering is something I do in the winter to keep warm, not a means of expressing my style.  But I so admire those ladies who layer and who do it so well!
  • Dresses: Because I tend not to layer well, I don’t really wear dresses.  They’re just one big expanse of fabric, and I never really know how to wear them other than with tights or leggings.  It’s slightly easier in the winter, because I naturally have to pile sweaters and shirts on top of them to scoop up that extra warmth.  My unease with dresses goes so far that I’ve actually cut 3 dresses in to skirts so that I can wear them more.

missphit, asos curve, tulle skirt(ASOS Curve: Military Cape & Asymmetrical Tulle Skirt; Missphit Zigzag Wrap)

  • Volume! Maybe I’ve been watching too much Gossip Girl lately, but I find myself suddenly inspired by Blair Waldorf’s wardrobe.  Wanting full skirts, feminine pieces, more bits for my hair.  But, as a plus-sized gal, I think that there’s a tendency to shy away from pieces that are full, because they add bulk and increase size even more.  But maybe there’s a way to try it out so that it works in my body’s favor?

eshakti, missphit, asos curve(Eshakti Two-Tone Pleat Dress; Missphit Striped Assymetrical Top; ASOS Curve Mesh One Shoulder Top)

  • Harder Lines & Softer Edges: While I went through a punk phase and consider myself to have a strong rock n’ roll streak in me, I’ve really stopped dressing to express that side.  Studs and leather, soft nudes pinks contrasted against harsh blacks, fringed hair and dark eyes.  It’s something that’s inherently me, but not inherent in the way I dress anymore.
  • More DIY: There are so many bloggers who manage to DIY and wear it with panache.  Since I have a sewing machine, hot glue gun, needles and thread, why aren’t I doing it more myself?

What do you think? Perfect break through for style (and lifestyle) ruts? If you were another person, what would you wear? Does it inspire you to try it out in your real life?


Veshoevius October 24, 2010 at 10:57 am

Definitely do the leopard print! I just tried trousers – unheard of for me – and the sky didn’t fall down on me. And I love capes – now they really do make you feel like you are living someone elses life when you wear them! And (I think) they suit all body shapes too.

LouLou October 18, 2010 at 1:57 pm

oooooh great post.
I often feel sad after looking at creative people’s blogs “why can’t i pull that off?” but i secretly love getting comments about my “different” style at work.
If i were another person I’d add layers and work some crazy concotions colour wise!
I’d also try looking funky in trousers – dresses are my staple.

Terri October 17, 2010 at 10:23 pm

I’d try stilettos and be more bohemian.

Prêt à Porter P October 17, 2010 at 6:29 am

I like that printed wrap. If I were another person I’d dress like a Sicilian Widow, sometimes I think I am which explains why I have those clothes stored away.

Andrea October 14, 2010 at 10:34 pm

What a thought provoking post…There are so many things I’d love to wear if I was another person – I’d love to change up my accessories and go a little bolder. I’m drawn to chunky jewelry, but tend to wear understated pieces…

lisa October 14, 2010 at 1:46 pm

This is such an interesting question, Ashe! Hmm Sarah’s sentiment of trying to change and reverting back to the “omg that’s so me!” staples really resonates with me. I tend to look a bit young for my age (it’s those darn Asian genes) and I gravitate towards styles that play that up sometimes: coats with a girlish cut, bows, florals, etc. If I were someone else, I’d dress in a way that looks less cutesy and more adult.

Shercole October 14, 2010 at 10:28 am

If I were another person I would wear short skirts and high heels! Also animal print!

I recently started wearing a lot of dresses so Im working slowly to continue to get out of my comfortzone

birdie October 12, 2010 at 10:43 am

PS: I’d wear more florals. Brighter colors. Less black (why am I so gawth right now?!). Taller shoes. I’d take risks.

Ashe Mischief October 13, 2010 at 3:11 pm

I’d feel more comfortable taking risks :/

birdie October 11, 2010 at 11:53 am

I’m so trying animal print, just for you, and not just on Halloween! ;)

Fajr | Stylish Thought October 11, 2010 at 11:42 am

If I were another person I’d probably go super minimalist and all black everything. But since I’m me I’ll stick to the vintage, feminine, over the top style I love.
Sidebar: you would look great in animal prints, very grrrrrrr sexy ;)

Ashe Mischief October 13, 2010 at 3:12 pm

I love your style as is– don’t go black and minimalist!

Natalie October 11, 2010 at 11:34 am

Love the idea of forgetting your comfort zone and just wearing whatever you want. Love that “hard edges” dress!

Lara October 11, 2010 at 9:43 am

I’m so feeling you on all of this. I keep buying dresses and skirts and I never wear them! It’s like I’m shopping for the me I wish I could be. Basically, I think it’s rooted in laziness, not putting myself together better.


Ashe Mischief October 13, 2010 at 3:11 pm

Yes, laziness! I really think that’s at the heart of a lot of my feelings, too.

Return to Sender October 11, 2010 at 9:40 am

Yay – I am so glad I inspired you! I can definitely see you in big bold prints – and of course, DRESSES. I feel like my style changed remarkably when I became, as I like to call myself, a dress girl – it opened up a whole new world of fashion and style!

Ashe Mischief October 13, 2010 at 3:10 pm

It’s really funny how afraid of prints I am other than stripes and polka dots! But I’m hopeful about getting some leopard prints in there now…

Dresses! They really baffle me… I’m hoping to find a better way to make them work (and to lessen my desire in feeling like they all need to be mid-thigh length!)

Suze October 11, 2010 at 9:39 am

I’ve been trying to force myself out of my outfit comfort zone for a while. I’m most comfortable in full skirts, cute, fitted tops and flats. I never wear pants or pencil skirts, or big poofy shirts. I want to experiment more with my clothes. I want to be able to wear different things.

I really like this post. :)

Ashe Mischief October 13, 2010 at 3:10 pm

I’m excited to see how your experiments and challenges will go, Suze!

Alicia October 9, 2010 at 8:21 pm

Ooh! If I were another person, I’d wear prints and patterns and all manner of girly things.

I have no desire to do that now, however. LOL.

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