8 Great Dates to go on with Your Girl Friends

by Ashe Mischief on March 9, 2010

If you have a couple of close girl friends, you probably find that you get in to dating ruts with them, much like your romantic partners. How often do we stick to lunch with our girl friends, drinks with our girl friends, or shopping with our girl friends?  There’s even a television series dedicated to the practice… Sex and the City.

Like all relationships, we can get in to a stalemate with our girl friends.  Maybe we’re tired of trekking around the mall, eating at the same restaurants, or want to cut down on your alcohol intake.  (It could happen!)  We need new misadventures and stories to spice up our lives, especially as we’re starting to get older.

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8 Great Dates to go on with Your Girl Friends

  • Skip the manis and pedis and hit up a fabulous make-up shop (or glamorous girly shop like Fifi Mahoney’s!) and walk out with glittery eyes and faux lashes.
  • Pack a Spring or Summer picnic, play croquet, eat petit fours, fried chicken, and festive salads, and drink iced tea and lemonade (spiked, of course).
  • Dress up in your finest shoes and skirts and head to the local art museum for an after-hours tour, lecture, & cocktail reception. Learn more about sculpture, native pottery, or women artist’s with your favorite ladies!
  • Fancy dancing, without guys grinding on you, overpriced drinks, or having to dress up?  Find your local Zumba class, Dance Dance Party Party, or a hula hooping group! Dance, laugh, shimmy, and shake, without judgment and reservations.
  • Hit up a burlesque performance; in the process, learn to admire and appreciate your own bodies and your best ladies’ bods, too.
  • Become season subscribers to the local theater, dance company, or opera company.  Make a standing date for each show, and all special subscriber only events.
  • Don wigs, great costumes, and hit up your town’s tourist nightspots.  Be specatular, shining, and abnormal.  Pose for pictures with the tourists and know you’re making their trip extraordinary.
  • Throw a slumber party! Release your inner 13 year olds: paint your nails, color your hair, eat lots of popcorn, pizza, and oreos.  Bring out the board games like like Mall Madness, Blind Date, (cheater’s) Monopoly, or Twister (for a great workout)!  Make mimosas and poinsettias, watch your favorite films from middle school and high school (or your favorite chick flicks and horror flicks!).  Crank call your lovers.  Have a shopping trip to Target to get matching pajama sets.  Cook a big brunch the next morning– chocolate chip & M&M pancakes, juice, coffee, cinnamon buns.

How about you, bijoux? How do you like to take your ordinary dates with your girl friends and make them extraordinary?

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Such Great Heights

by Ashe Mischief on March 8, 2010

This post was originally written in October 2008, and has been edited & updated with new links and information. As we approach Spring & Summer, and we shed our winter boots, knee socks, and tights for lighter attire, I thought this information would be worth sharing again!

sex and the city, sex and the city the movie, carrie bradshaw, dior gladiator sandals, carrie bradshow flower dress, sex and the city movie 2The phenomenon around Sex and the City has taken the popularity of high heels and skyrocketed them to new heights. More then ever, high heels have become a fashion statement unto themselves, with each season bringing about more shocking, more vibrant, and more amazing shoes than their predecessors.

But a three or four inch shoe can be daunting. And many cannot even begin to fathom the greater heights, as we push ourselves in to 4 1/2, 5, or 6 inch heels. With the pursuit of vanity (and great gams) comes warnings, fears, and frights.

Basics for Beginners

  • If you’re just starting out, chances are that after your first day in a higher heel, your tendons, the ball of your foot, and ankles may be sore. I recommend having shoes of a variety of heights, and switching them out throughout the week. Start with a moderate heel (2.5″), and then the next day work up to a 3.5″ heel. Follow it up with a flat if your feet are feeling strained– if they’re not, try taking it up to a 4″! Be sure to follow this day up with a pair of flats, to give yourself time to rest and adjust. By rotating shoes in your daily routine, you’ll also help prevent the shrinkage of your Achilles’ Tendon!
  • Every thing is in the fit! Experts agree, you need: enough room for your piggies to wiggle around; a toe box that is not too snug; make sure your heel isn’t slipping out of the back (I find this can be a result of the shoe’s arch and height, as well. If it’s not a fit issue, try the Dr. Scholl’s stick’ems.). To make sure you’re getting these all right, walk around a LOT!
  • And don’t forget– most leather shoes CAN be stretched a certain amount in the footbed… so if they’re a wee too snug and you can’t live without them, take them to a good cobbler! (You should love your shoes enough to take them to a cobbler anyhow.) This is extra important because as you walk and distribute your weight, your toes need to be able to spread enough to take shock and place the weight on the ball of your feel.
  • It’s all a balancing act! One of the most common problems (I know I’m guilty of it as well), is learning how to shift your balance. If you were to stand upright barefooted, most of your weight would be on the your heels. This does not change if you are in heels.

Tricks of the Trade

  • The Breast of the shoe is the inner arch where the stiletto meets the bottom of your foot. This area affects stability; the farther forward the arch is, the more stability you will have.  For more information, read Poochie’s guest post at Broke & Beautiful on the anatomy of a shoe!
  • Insolia offers “Weight Shifter” inserts, which help redistribute the weight back off the ball of your foot and back on to the heel.  Similarly, I have found no inserts that compare to Footpetals, for adding cushion to the ball of your foot, preventing them from sliding, or adding an overall insert.  I’ve got packages of them for back-up!
  • Strengthen your muscles! Thanks to the Faux Beau & his Wii Fit, I’m convinced that the “Palm Tree” pose in Yoga is an excellent means of developing your balance and strengthening your ankles and stretching your spine. Directions on how to do this pose. For a variation, you can always keep your feet together.
  • Other recommended techniques**: For stronger ankles, stand next to a wall, extend one leg in front of you, and circle your foot at the ankle in both directions. Repeat 10 times per foot. Use a calf machine or a step to raise yourself on to your toes, hold, and lower; this will strengthen your calves and Achilles Tendon. For stronger toes, place a corks between them and squeeze as tightly as possible for 10 seconds. Similarly, to tighten your arches, place marbles on the ground and pick them up with your toes. Deposit in to a bowl. Be sure that you are sitting while you do this, or you’re likely to injure yourself more than if you’d worn heels in the first place.
    ** Techniques recommended from “In Style Magazine, October 2006.”

Not So Pretty, Nitty Gritty

  • One of the biggest concerns against heels is the potential for foot damage. When the foot is forced in to the upright position over a long-term, the Achilles Tendon has the potential to shorten. This may cause the wearer to feel discomfort when the wear flat or low heels (in this position, our tendon is longer). There are doctors who say that if you can limit yourself to wearing heels for less than 12 hours a day, and wearing supportive shoes, like sneakers, the remainder of the time, you’ll decrease the likelihood of this happening.
  • An improperly designed toe box can cause the toes to cram together. This can lead to blisters, corns, bunions, hammer toes, and other long-term ailments. So make sure your toes have room to lay in their normal position to decrease this happening. Give those piggies wiggle room!
  • According to our good friend Wikipedia, “…a few podiatrists recommend well-constructed low to moderate heels for some patients. It appears a slight elevation of the heel improves the angle of contact between the metatarsals and the horizontal plane, thereby more closely approximating the proper angle and resulting in proper weight distribution of a medium-to-high-arched foot.”
  • I practice running (yes, running) in a new pair of heels. Nothing fancy, or really more than a real sprint, but I ALWAYS make sure I can do a little jog in them. I like to practice this in the kitchen.

Extras for Experts:

What am I missing, cher? Any fool proof tips of the trade that you’ve found to be a godsend when it comes to your favorite footwear?

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IFB Presents: Links a la Mode

by Ashe Mischief on March 4, 2010

Fashion Flashback

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As fashion weeks starting winding down, some are looking forward to the next trend in fashion. This week, I was thrilled to see so many bloggers focusing on the past -the history of fashion. An obvious passion of mine, vintage fashion has never been so influential. fête à fête reviews a gorgeous collection of vintage inspired jewelry. Fabulous Finds narrates a 1950s styled romp through Palm Springs. Oranges and Apples shares inspiring vintage Life magazine images. In politics, if you don’t learn from history, you’re destined to repeat it. In fashion, if you don’t learn from history, you won’t know you are repeating it!

Links à la Mode : March 4th

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Review: Tonic Leave-In Conditioner

by Ashe Mischief on March 3, 2010

Bren of So Much Pretty and I have been blogger buddies since we both wrote for Heels.com.  However, her posts are geared more towards beauty & body than style, so she’s always rolling in yummy beauty treats.  She offered to hook me up with some for review, including Luster Tonic: Leave in Conditioner.

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Luster Tonic’s described as:

Luster is a leave-in conditioning mist with powerful UV-inhibitors and natural botanical oils designed to protect hair from the damaging effects of sun, salt, wind and chlorine…. Our unique cream-to-mist technology doubles as a luxurious moisturizer that re-hydrates dull skin with aloe vera and grapeseed oil, leaving a subtle scent of remote tropical island. Think French West Indies meets the Caribbean with a delicious blend of vanilla, banana and a hint of sparkling orange extract.

Paraben-free, sulfate-free, not tested on animals, contains no animal products or by-products, environmentally friendly and completely non-toxic.

Plus the packaging is recycled, too!

Thoughts?

  • First off, I LOVE not knowing I’m crazy now for thinking it always smelled like bananas and vanilla after I used it! I could have sworn Bren described it as coconut-y, but that never crossed my nose.  It’s yummy and comforting, especially when the bathroom is still warm and steamy from your shower.
  • Put a towel down before you use it; if you’re like me, and have tile or linoleum in your bathroom, it can make the floor super slippery! Not as much of a problem at the beach or a pool, but indoors? Do not run!
  • I have super fine hair that tangles if you look at it wrong– so heavy conditioners are out of the question.  The only good experiences I’ve had with leave-in conditioners were with Pantene when I was younger.  The first time I used Luster Tonic, I wasn’t overly impressed.  It didn’t seem as conditioning as I wanted.  However, I kept up using it.  I think back on that, and I’m pretty sure I’m crazy (or I just saturate my hair with more now).  It detangles well and keeps my hair lightweight throughout the day.
  • Remember how I’ve been testing dry shampoos, so I can go longer without washing my hair? Luster Tonic is great because by day 2, my hair is still lightweight enough, and dare I say “dry” enough, that I don’t feel the need to necessarily use dry shampoo on day 2. (Day 3 is another story though!)

Overall, Luster Tonic is a nice product, and definitely worth checking out if you’re looking for hair care products that are free of harsh chemicals, are earth happy, and smell yummy.  The $12 price tag could be a weighty for some shoppers, but for those who are used to spending more for luxury hair care products, it could be a nice alternative to your high end conditioners.

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B&Lu $100 Gift Certificate Giveaway!

by Ashe Mischief on March 1, 2010

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I’m beyond excited to announce a very special giveaway–I’m thrilled to begin 2010 with it.

B&Lu is one of my favorite sites to shop with– for their great styles, affordable prices, and good quality.  I’m still regularly rocking many pieces that I bought many months ago, and they’re holding up really well.  I routinely turn to them when I’m in the mood or need to supplement my wardrobe– their pieces take me perfectly from day time to night time.  The last few months have given me the chance to know the lady behind B&Lu, and she’s wonderful.  The company deserves huge congrats on being featured on the Tyra Banks Show as a place for plus-sized fashionistas to find great clothes.

And B&Lu Loves YOU.  Why?

The amazing Chris, stellar rockstar behind B&Lu.com is giving away a$100 gift card to one lucky fashionista!

How to Enter:

Become a Fan of B&Lu on Facebook, and leave a comment here, letting us know that you’ve become a fan.  That’s the only requirement!

For extra entries, sign up to receive B&Lu’s emails.  You can do this on their main page. (Ashe Mischief Note: they only come out 1-2 times a season–usually to announce the new collections & uber sales! I’ve never regretted it.)

You can also become a fan of Dramatis Personae on Facebook.

For extra entries, be sure to come back and leave a new comment for each one you’ve done. If you’re already on the mailing list or a fan of dp, go ahead and leave those extra entries letting us know you are!

Official Rules & Details:

  • Contest is open to citizen of the world!
  • Open to all ages.
  • Contest ends on March 14th. Winner will be drawn & notified the week of March 15th.

So pretty ladies, now that I’ve got your attention… what pieces would YOU buy with a $100 gift certificate?

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